Hi Everyone! Happy New year!! Cannot believe we are in 2018 already! I hope you are all excited that it is a new year and are feeling optimistic & inspired.
Recap: If you follow my instagram @michaelacourand then you will see that on I wrote a bit about how 2017 went for me and how I felt about it. To recap quickly 2017 like 2016 for me have been the hardest years of my life. I started to become ill without cause it seemed, I entered my last year of college, had to do long distance with my bf of 6 years.( that was 2016). In 2017 I thought and prayed wouldn't be as hard but I can surely tell you this year was by far harder and worse then the year before. I was still so ill but finally got diagnosed with a chronic illness after almost 10 months to a year of having no idea what was going on. This past year was one of those soul breaking, struggling to the point of not wanting to fight anymore but somehow doing it day in and day out anyway kind of years. Not the type of year I'd ever want to repeat. But reflecting on this past year the words I can attach to it are "real & deep struggle can bring real & deep growth".
What I found in my deep struggle was growth and that made this year one of the most valuable to me. Now don't get me wrong I am human I wasn't all accepting of this growth as I went along. Pretty sure so many times with tears running down my face I said enough. I can’t take anymore, there is only so much growth and pain one person can be put through at one time. I fought the growth because I was fighting the struggle. I am seeing the growth now in reflection and when I am faced with the struggle again with my illness. Growth and allowing it is almost as hard as the struggle itself. But my soul grew, my relationships grew, my heart grew, and so did my spirit. It allowed me as a whole to expand and grow in depth. I could go on about this but all in all I cannot chalk up this year as the worst of my whole life even if parts of it were. I got my handsome from long distance, I graduated college, I discovered in my illness that my body was screaming to me to stop putting it to the side that I need to make it my top priority.
Now that you have some background on my life this past year more then maybe you got from my blogposts or instagram we can talk about what I want from this new year. Goals, hopes, dreams, why I don’t do resolutions, and changes to my content in this next year.
How I make goals: On Monday January 1 I took out my notebook the white one you see above and I wrote a master list of my hopes, dreams, goals, to-do’s etc that I want to accomplish this year. I just wrote them out in terms of priority to me but without a lot of order because I knew I would get that. I just wanted to write down anything that was on my heart and man the list was long haha. So I had to be practical and breakdown the list.
So I broke it down under umbrella goals or ( non time sensitive goals), then time sensitive goals ( in order of how I want/ need to get them done), then broke it down into how to do these goals and to-do’s in my everyday life. For example a goal I wrote down was to cook more. It was very non specific and not easy to incorporate into my life written that way. So I broke it down that I wanted to cook 1-2 times a week ( I live at home) and try a new recipe atleast one a month if not more. This is what I mean by breaking it down to make it easier to implement. I found in years past that if I leave big goals like that open ended and break it down into something attainable I don’t do them.
I think many people struggle with this. Thats why most people stop their “resolutions” within a matter of weeks after the new year. They don’t actually make it achievable for themselves.This is also why I don’t make them. I feel they have this attachment to them that you won’t actually commit to them and I don’t like that.
What I wanted most by writing down goals this way was to actually be able to do them and not feel intimidated/overwhelmed.
(Template) If you want to follow the way I did it here’s the template:
Write down all Goals:
Breakdown Goals into categories
“umbrella goals” aka non time sensitive do on own free will
"Time sensitive goals" like I want to apply to 5 jobs by X date
"Non Time sensitive but has an increment of time associated with it” Example cooking 1-2 times a week. 1 yoga class. Read for 15 minutes. These are some of my goals that aren’t necessarily time sensitive or has an end date but has an increment of time attached to it. I hope that makes sense.
Content: In terms of content I want to make this year I will continue to talk all things fashion & lifestyle but I want to add cooking back into the mix because it makes me happy and I have an interesting diet maybe some of you have to follow too because of health restrictions. I want to talk more about things besides the superficial. These would be under my #coffeeshopthoughts. Like matters going on in the world, talking about my illness, finding your path, yoga etc. I want to write more book recommendations/ reviews. I want to talk about makeup and products I love. Basically I want to talk about everything and not limit to one section of things that I generally know based on my audience like to read.
Hope for you: All in all I hope this inspires you to make some goals for yourself in this new year. You can write them however works best for you. Also I just want to say me mentioning how hard my year(s) have been isn’t for pity. I know many many people have harder lives then me but I share it to tell you I am human and go through really hard struggles too. And for a long time had no dreams or hopes of pursuing goals. But I found it in my heart to now and hope you can too.
I hope you have a wonderful rest of your week,