It has been a hot minute since I last wrote a blogpost for many reasons which I will get to promise! I think that explanation will be in my next post so stay tuned for that + something exciting I have been working on the low! :)
Today I am back with a very honest and raw #coffeeshopthoughts about something that was said to me recently that set me back. I am sure you can read in the title this post is about that phrase we probably all have heard at some point in our life "You've Changed". You might have heard this from someone in your family, a friend, (hopefully not ) significant other. You get gist. This phrase is usually said to you by someone close-ish to you or has a better understanding of you and your personality than just an acquaintance.
How come changing and growing are thrown into a negative light? I think personally not growing and staying stagnant means I am not living my life or present in it. I believe that circumstances and situations we are faced with change us as people and that's OK! Deep down the qualities that really make you you will always remain the same but life changes and shapes you that's just how it works.
For me the last two years of my life when I developed my chronic illness and had to learn (still am learning) how to live an entirely different way have absolutely changed me. I didn't have a choice it turned my life upside down, I couldn't stay the person I was. Throughout the last two years it has been unbelievably hard to let go of the old me and become this new version. It took all the courage and strength I had to allow that. I still struggle because sometimes it's really hard to believe I have what I have and how different my life is then it used to be. But like the quote above says I whole heartedly believe that I had to go through what I have had to to become the person I was always meant to be.
Don't ever let someone make you feel bad for growing and making changes in your life. I am telling myself this too girl! Sometimes when you do change you outgrow things and people. This is a hard reality to accept but this is a side effect of that growth and change. Some people will not make the effort to understand and get to know the "new version" of you. It hurts I won't sit here and act like it doesn't it really does but you shouldn't stay stagnant to stay close to that person. Because if they really want you to not grow and evolve they shouldn't be in your life. Change will really show you the people who love you for you and want to stick around. Be grateful for them! I know I am sure thankful for my mom and dad, sweet handsome, and friends who have stayed. They've given me the room to evolve because of my really hard set circumstances and supported me through it. I am learning how to heal from people who haven't stayed.
I am here for you if you are going through change! It won't be easy but you will come out a even better version of you, I know it!
Talk to you all soon,