Happy Monday girlies! I hope if you are reading this post and struggling with body image and body positivity you know it's okay because most of us are. I don't think there is one single person out there that loves every aspect of how they look. But there is actually so much good in that. I'll use myself as an example, I can look at the photos above and pin point things I don't love like my arms but even knowing that I still feel beautiful. I also know that I am beautiful because of my loving heart, my corny sense of humor, my willingness to helps others, my love for animals etc. How we look is only skin deep we can feel beautiful from our qualities within and recognize our amazing bods on the outside whatever shape, size, color we are.
Now for some tips on how I strive for body positivity.
Tip#1 I allow myself to see my "flaws" and accept them to be there. I don't beat myself up about not loving certain parts and I also don't pretend that I really do love every single aspect of myself all the time. Neither of those ways will lead to feeling your best most confident self. Finding that confidence will always be in the middle and from a place of acceptance.
Tip#2 is to be constantly saying kind words to yourself. I actually do this all the time and in many different situations because negative self talk effects not only how we think but how we see ourselves. if you are constantly telling yourself how ugly or how much you hate that one part of your body that will be all you see. When those negative voices come into your head turn towards kindness. What I mean by this is say "okay I hear you you don't like your stomach but I am still a beautiful, worthy, and deserving person." If every time that negativity pops into your head you turn to kindness towards yourself you'd be surprised with how quiet those mean thoughts will eventually become.
Tip#3 Try to stay away from the comparison game. Oh boy this one is hard isn't it? Especially for us girls. We are constantly hit with images in magazines of the "ideal" women, we are hit with photoshopped girls on instagram, and we are hit with poor role models like the Kim K's of our generation. I say this because comparison is every where and the opportunities to compare yourself will be endless. So this comes back to the tip above, kindness and adding an additional thing and that's setting boundaries. If you are scrolling endlessly and it is just making you upset and more down on yourself stop right there. Be kind to yourself and try to pinpoint why looking at those people is hurting you and causing negative self talk then set a boundary. This will in turn allow you to be kind to yourself. If you know after a certain point instagram makes you feel worse about yourself and not motivated give yourself a time limit. Stick to that boundary until you feel you don't need it. A few months ago I took an entire week off of instagram for this exact reason. I am just like you.
Tip#4 is don't live by a scale, calorie intake, macros, health trends live by moderation. Exercise some everyday, eat balanced meals consistently, rest when you need, sleep the amount that feels good for your body, nourish yourself instead of restrict. If you are constantly restricting yourself you won't ever find positivity and confidence in your body. Because instead of nourishing and allowing your body to work for you you are starving it of what it wants/needs. This will again promote negative self talk because at some point your body will scream at you to give it what it needs and you will "break" that diet and feel bad about yourself. Now I am NOT an expert or nutritionist at all so you do what is best for your health in terms of food and exercise but I mention these things to try to guide you towards a happier life and healthier mindset towards your temple of a body.
I hope these tips are helpful for you all and if you can't relate to them that's okay I hope it atleast it was a kind place to land.